Let’s be honest—there are days, weeks, or even months when your interest in sex might dip.
That’s normal.
Desire comes and goes; it’s part of being human. But if your low libido is hanging around like an unwelcome guest—killing your confidence, straining your relationship, or leaving you feeling like something’s off—it’s time to take a closer look.
Is It Just a Dry Spell… or Something More?
What you may be experiencing could fall under something called Hypoactive Sexual Desire Disorder—or HSDD. That’s the clinical name for a persistent lack of sexual interest lasting six months or more. It’s not just a passing mood or situational rut. This is about consistently low or absent sexual desire, including a lack of interest even in solo sex or masturbation.
Sound familiar? Then keep reading.
Some men experience Situational Low Desire—for example, they might feel turned off in their current relationship, but still feel interested in sex otherwise. Others feel switched off across the board. Understanding where you land matters, because it shapes how you get back on track.
The “Dead Bedroom” Myth
You’ve probably heard the phrase “dead bedroom.”
We don’t use that term at Menssana.
Why?
Because it makes it sound like the spark is gone for good.
That’s not how desire works.
Libido isn’t a fixed trait. It’s flexible, responsive, and very often recoverable.
When you treat the underlying cause.
What Causes Low Libido in Men?
Libido is like a dashboard light—it tells you something’s going on under the hood. Here’s what can throw it off course:
Psychological Causes
Let’s start with the mind. Because whether you’re aware of it or not, your brain plays a central role in your sex drive.
Stress & Anxiety
Chronic stress flips your brain into “survival mode.” It sends blood and resources away from your genitals and toward more “urgent” systems—like your heart and lungs. In this state, arousal is harder to reach, and so is orgasm. This is also one of the reasons anxiety can lead to erectile dysfunction or even make sex painful.
If your head is full of to-do lists, deadlines, or worries, you’re not broken. You’re just overloaded. The solution? Training your brain to switch gears. That’s why Menssana offers short, science-based exercises rooted in CBT, mindfulness, and hypnosis—designed to ease mental stress and prime your brain for intimacy again.
Low Self-Esteem or Body Image
Not feeling confident in your body? You’re not alone. Negative thoughts about how you look—or how you think you’re performing—can create a mental block that shuts down arousal.
When you’re stuck in your head during sex, it’s tough to feel anything in your body. The antidote? Learn how to be fully present. With the right tools, you can shift from self-doubt to self-connection.
Relationship Stress
Relationships matter—a lot. Maybe you’ve noticed that your desire faded after a fight. Or maybe sex became routine. Or you’re feeling emotionally distant.
This doesn’t mean the relationship is doomed. It means you need to reignite desire with intention. If the sex feels stale, it’s no surprise your libido hit snooze.
Desire feeds on novelty, safety, and emotional connection—all things that can be rebuilt. We help men understand their “desire type” and how to speak their partner’s erotic language.
Physical Causes
Libido isn’t just psychological—it’s biological, too. Here are some of the big hitters:
- Fatigue (especially chronic lack of sleep)
- Alcohol or substance use
- Hormonal changes (including low testosterone)
- Aging-related shifts (especially post-50)
- Chronic health conditions, including:
- Type 2 diabetes
- Obesity
- High blood pressure or cholesterol
- Chronic pain
- Heart, kidney, or liver failure
If any of these apply to you, it’s not a reason to give up. It’s a starting point for action.
Medication Side Effects
Some meds are known libido killers. These include:
- SSRIs (antidepressants)
- Opioid pain relievers
- Certain blood pressure or cholesterol meds
- Chemotherapy
- Anabolic steroids
- Long-term corticosteroids
- Birth control (for women—but can still affect relationships)
If your sex drive dropped after starting a new medication, talk to your doctor. There may be alternatives.
Symptoms of Low Libido: How Do You Know It’s Time to Act?
Here’s what to look out for:
- Little or no interest in sexual activity
- Lack of sexual thoughts or fantasies
- No response to things that used to arouse you (movies, books, even certain touches)
- Sex feels “meh,” unfulfilling, or totally avoidable
If any of these have been going on for six months or more, that’s your cue.
So… What Can You Do?
Start with the basics:
- Move your body daily
- Eat real, whole food
- Prioritize sleep
- Cut back on alcohol
These lifestyle shifts can have a surprisingly powerful impact.
Then go deeper:
At Menssana, we take a root-cause approach to libido loss. Our tools are built on the best of neuroscience and sexual therapy—without the side effects of pills, or the awkwardness of office visits. Our guided programs are private, practical, and tailored for men who want results.
Whether you’re dealing with stress, performance anxiety, premature ejaculation, or just a flatlined sex drive—we’ll help you train your brain and body to crave sex again.
Bottom Line
Low libido isn’t a life sentence. It’s a signal. And when you learn how to listen to it, you don’t just fix your sex life—you start showing up in your life as a more confident, connected man.
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